The hardest part about Owning Your You is believing it. Believing that you are good enough, capable enough, etc. to do what you want to do. It’s hard to change how you view yourself, you’ve spent your whole life thinking about yourself in a certain way; for many of us, that “certain” way includes a fair amount of negativity and self doubt. I’m not as smart as her. I’m not as pretty as her. I’m not as talented as her. I can’t do what she does. I’m not. I can’t. I’m not. I can’t….
After years of the “not” and “can’t” commentary in your head, no wonder it’s so hard to break out of that and start to think “I AM” and “I CAN!”
But I have good news. There is a way to start acting like you are and you can: Fake it! Yes. Fake it.
You see, perception is reality. Think about that for a second. Perception is reality. If other people perceive you as being confident and capable (or whatever else you want to portray) then in their eyes you ARE confident and capable. They believe it if you act like you believe it, too. Eventually, their perception of you is that you are confident and capable – repeat that last part: you ARE confident and capable. It’s often true that a big part of our negative feelings about ourselves are a result of what we believe that other people think about us. Well, then, the opposite is also true. If we believe that people think we are confident and capable, we will begin to believe that ourselves until, eventually, you’re not faking it anymore…you’re believing it…you are Owning It!
The next time you are in a situation where you want to be successful, where you want to be capable (again, these are my examples, use whatever skill/trait that YOU struggle with and want to improve on) take a minute before you enter that situation and remind yourself to act the way you want to be perceived. Remind yourself to fake it.
You’re on your way to Owning Your You. Be proud of that.